[tweetability]What follows the ‘I am’ will always come looking for you. - Joel Osteen[/tweetability]

“I am tired.”
“I am broke.”
“I am ugly.”
“I am unlucky.”

How many of these sound familiar? They do to me. The power of I AM is truly remarkable.

A few months ago, at the end of a long week, I was chatting to my housemate as I arrived home and as she asked how I was I responded with “I am tired.”

I stopped for a second, I realised that recently anytime I had been asked how I was I responded the same “I am tired.”

I kept catching myself saying it and it felt bad, I didn’t want to be responding with negative things. I was defining myself by being this person who was always tired and nothing else. It’s a nasty habit to be controlled by the negative things that happen in our lives on a daily basis and we can become defined by it.

How many of us know people who continuously open with how stressed or how unhappy they are at work? It becomes so common it becomes how we see them.

[tweetability]Negativity breeds negativity[/tweetability]

If you keep saying “I am tired”‘ you invite fatigue - you train your brain to think that’s your basic state. I said it so often, sometimes on auto without even thinking, and it made me feel more tired than I was, it became my focus. If you keep saying “I’m unhappy”, you’re inviting unhappiness and surrounding your daily life with it. What follows the ‘I am’ becomes you, so make it a positive.

When you need things to change don’t talk about who you are, talk about who you want to be. It may not be true right now, but you need to be calling for it in order to put yourself in the best position to receive it.

I think this is one of the most powerful things I have ever learnt, to change the lens that I view the world and my life with. To adapt the language I use in order to be constructive to my goals rather than destructive.

What follows your ‘I am’?

Written by Neil Thornton
London-based coffee drinker. Editor by day, blogger by whatever time he finds spare.